The other day my husband went for a run on the beach. Nothing unusual for him since he does it most every beach day we have. When he came back he seemed a little perturbed. He didn't say why until later that evening.
Now what I am about to write is a topic that can cause lots of negative feelings and cause people to be confrontational. It is not my intention.
When my husband and I finally had time to talk without 4 year old and 1 year old interruptions, he opened up about what had happened on his run. It isn't so much of what happened but what he saw. A pregnant woman standing on the beach smoking. Openly. For all to see.
He was angry with the woman. Did she know what she was doing to her child? How could someone be so selfish? Yes, he understands that smoking is like an addiction that some people can't get over. But I think what he was struggling with was if the woman knew she was pregnant (which clearly she did) why wasn't she doing anything and everything she could to stop?
Now my husband is not confrontational. He lets things go, sometimes things he shouldn't. And he obviously didn't know this woman or her situation and he didn't say anything. He just kept running.
The following day he posted some pretty strong words on Facebook about what he saw. He knew it would upset people but he also knew what the woman smoking was doing to her child. He didn't receive much feedback (negative or positive) in fact he received very few likes. Pictures of our children or a healthy meal he has prepared receive more likes and comments. Someone commented and asked if maybe he was secretly on that show "What Would You Do?" and maybe he had failed. I was a little taken back by the lack of response from his post. Do people not care or are they just afraid to speak up? It seems like we are eager to voice our opinions about a lot of things these days so why not about this?
We aren't smokers. Never have been. In fact, I can count very few family members or friends of mine who smoke. I think that people are smarter now about things. I just hope that this woman realizes what she is doing to her innocent child and does something about it. There is so much information and help available that she doesn't have any excuses.
And on a lighter note, what is a post without pictures?!
Apparently we have entered the
"stick the tongue out for pictures" phase.