Tuesday, January 29, 2013

Helmet

So the Boy wears a helmet. This isn't new.

It's a pain in the arse. This isn't new either.

We are all adjusting.  When we take it off of him, H.B.Nanna asks if his head is round yet. I tell her not yet but it's getting there.

People see him in his helmet and tell us how cute he is.  Of course he is, he's my son! ;)

The helmet makes his head stink.  It's different then formula neck. And not in a good way. Thank goodness he has started to like baths.

Today I found myself trying to explain to someone who had never met me {or my family} about the helmet and why the Boy wears one. I know why. But I found myself talking in circles. Like I didn't want to say the wrong thing to make her think badly about me because I have a child that wears a helmet. And as soon as the conversation was over, I regretted it.  I wish I had better explained it's purpose. Made her aware of it's seriousness. That my child doesn't wear a helmet because he is clumsy. A neurosurgeon prescribed it for medical reasons.

We are just over one month into his helmet wearing and it has changed us.  Changed our outlook on things.  Trust me, we are grateful for two healthy children. I try to remember that there are children out there who would rather wear a helmet then go through whatever they may be going through.

Monday, January 28, 2013

Some Old Pictures

Well if everyone else is doing it, I should too....
 
 
 March 2006 - about a week after we met.
One of the worst pictures of us..but then again there aren't many good ones.
We aren't photogenic.  
 
July 2006 - Bon Jovi at Citizens Bank Park
with my BFF 
 
October 2006 - The night we got engaged.
I was so mad at him for inisting on wearing that jacket.
Little did I know there was a ring in the pocket! 
 
September 2007 - me wear a bathing suit at a pool?!
No, I'll just sit here and drink wine.
 
February 2008 - My Bridesmaids and I before my Bachelorette Party 

 

Friday, January 25, 2013

At This Moment

At this moment I am trying to enjoy my final minutes of quiet before the
children wake from their naps.
Correction - before the little guy wakes since the sister is refusing to close her eyes.
No playing in the snow if you don't nap doesn't seem to bother her.
It makes me sad because who knows if we will get snow again
{one of the downfalls of living at the beach}
I'm sure she'll connive her way out there though ;)
 
At this moment the smell of sauce, gravy whatever you may call it is cooking away.
I am following the recipe from Ralph's Italian Restaurant out of Philly. Delish!
 
At this moment my head cold is starting to get to me. 
We were almost through a sickness-free January.
So so close and who knew I'd be the first to get sick.
Although the hubs may not be far behind since he just decided to go for a run.
It's 25 degrees out and should be snowing within the hour.
 
At this moment I stress about the corrective helmet and the idea that the
 Boy could need another one next month if he out grows this one.
Corrective helmets aren't cheap.
And they are supposed to last the 3 to 4 months that they are prescribed.
This Boy is a weed and growing fast.
 
At this moment as I sit here and type I think of the things I want to
do around the house today.
But alas, I know that I won't come close to getting them done.
Sitting on the floor playing toys with the Boy while H.B.Nanna plays in her
 Princess dresses is way more fun then folding laundry.
 
At this moment I wonder if I will ever make anything of my Etsy store.
I know if I put more effort into it that the chances might be better.
I just wonder if I jumped the gun and if it was a mistake.
 
At this moment my head is going in lots of directions.
Sometimes it is hard to turn it off.
Sometimes it makes it hard to enjoy life's little moments.
 
At this moment the Boy has waken and I must go cover him with kisses.
And maybe let sister get out of her un-slept in bed ;)
 
 

Tuesday, January 22, 2013

Corrective Helmet Update

So when the Boy started with the helmet I had great hopes of frequently blogging updates and bringing awareness to them as they aren't just something they wear for fun.  But life happens and the blogging takes a back seat {see also my struggle with balance}.

So here we are nearly one month into the helmet and what an adventure it has been. In a perfect world, the helmet would fit wonderfully, your child would adjust well and before you know if the three to four months of wear would be over. In a perfect world.

In my world..the helmet was too tight from day one. He HATED it. As in tears and red {burn looking} marks all over his head. It was adjusted - a spacer was added and it fit much better. For a week. Now we at the point where it fits ok, not too tight, not too loose. It just fits. Some days he hates it. Other days he doesn't mind it. It all depends on the day really. Last night he was trying to push it off.

Overall we notice a difference in his head shape.  It is still flat in some spots but we knew going into this that his head would never be perfectly round. So it may just be that he can never shave his head when he is older.

The instructions with the helmet are 23 hours a day. One hour off for bathing/eating/whatever he needs. But lets be realistic...23 hours?  The helmet isn't light. It's not super heavy but it is big.  His head is big already so when you add the helmet to it, it is extra large. In the car he can't put his head back so it falls forward and stays there. I worry about additional neck issues so we have eliminated helmet wear in the car. The risk of further neck issues out weight the short time he is the car seat without the helmet. Call me crazy...

Developmentally, he is moving forward.  He has started rolling over.  Not as often as he could but he does it. Without the helmet. With the helmet, he really has no interest in rolling. The Boy has mastered sitting on his own.  He can sit for extended periods of time playing with toys in front of him and reaching for others. Without the helmet. With the helmet, he sits just not as well and not for long. The weight of the helmet makes his head fall forward and he has trouble holding it up. Tummy time is getting better.  He has started pushing himself up on his hands and knees which is awesome. Without the helmet.

This is where we struggle.  Do you push the helmet for a somewhat round head with the understanding that it will never be perfect and potentially delay him developmentally?  Or do you not push the helmet and let him develop naturally?  We struggle with this everyday. And we understand that as his parents we need to decide what is best for him.  But I can't help but think that if what we think is best now will really not be best years down the road?  Will he be mad that he can never shave his head?! Or if he does, that his head will be misshapen.  I am sure that shaving his head will be the least of his or our worries when he is older.

Day 1 of helmet wear
 
Day 19 of helmet wear

 
 
Today we go for a helmet adjustment.  The Boy is having redness around his right ear which is making the helmet uncomfortable for him.  At his last adjustment we were informed that another spacer can not be added as this will defeat the purpose of the helmet as the inside shape will be lost. Concern was expressed as it his highly unlikely that he will last the three to four months that the helmet was prescribed for.  I have to say that while I think that overall the helmet is a good thing, I find this process very frustrating. Very. 
 

Monday, January 21, 2013

5 and 6 Month Updates for the Boy

I didn't even realize I didn't post a 5 month update for the Boy. Bad Mommy!! ;)

 5 Months
 


Current clothes sizes -

jammies 12  months

6 -9 month onesies and bottoms
 
Size 3 Diapers
 
Height/Weight

At a doctors visit on 12/11 the scaled was tipped at nearly 21 pounds
and the Boy was 28 inches long!
 
Feeding -

5 tbsp of cereal at dinner, 4 tbsp of cereal at breakfast both with a fruit or veg,
then a fruit or veg for lunch
All stage 2 fruits and veggies - apples, bananas, peaches, pears, carrots, green beans, peas,
mixed veggies, mixed fruites
 
6oz bottles 3 times a day {give or take}, then 2 to 3 {2 to 3oz} bottles a day {usually with food}

Sleeping -

The mid-morning, early afternoon nap is still what seems to work for the Boy.
 
We've had a few rough nights lately and some early mornings!
 
Personality -

Such an easy-going little guy.
Loves to laugh and smile - especially at his big Sissy!

Development -

Tummy time is getting easier.
Sitting is lots of fun!
 
6 Months

 
 
Current clothes sizes -

jammies 12 months

9 -12 month onesies and bottoms
 
Size 3 Diapers

Height/Weight

21.84 pounds and 30 inches

Feeding -

5 tbsp of cereal at dinner, 4 tbsp of cereal at breakfast both with a fruit or veg,
then a full fruit or veg for lunch
All stage 2 fruits and veggies - apples, bananas, peaches, pears, carrots, green beans, peas,
mixed veggies, mixed fruites
 
The Boy loves puffs!!

6oz bottles 3 times a day {give or take}, then 2 to 3 {2 to 3oz} bottles a day {usually with food}

Sleeping -

Sometimes there is a pattern to the naps, other days - not so much.
We've had a few rough nights lately and some early mornings!

Personality -

Happy, giggly, smiley Dude.

Development -

Rolling over!!
Holding the botski all by himself
Sitting up all by himself {much better without the helmet then with}
Pushing up on his arms
There are 2 teeth and the top 2 are on their way!
All most one month into helmet wearing and not a fan.  Sleeps fine in it but doesn't like wearing it when he is awake.  Who can blame him?!
PT and OT visits are in-home now and he really likes it.  He is usually tired by the end of the hour but then a nice long nap follows :)

 

Saturday, January 19, 2013

Balance

Just like every other Mom out there I struggle to find balance. This isn't anything new to anyone.  Sometimes even those who aren't parents struggle to find balance.

My house looks like a bomb went off in it.  The sink has dishes.  The fridge needs stocking.  Laundry...don't even get me started on that.  H.B.Nanna's birthday presents are still piled high on the dining room table.

I did get my Christmas decorations down.  That's a positive.

I struggle to find time to blog.
I struggle to find time to be creative and stock my Etsy store.
I struggle to find "me" time. Pedicure, Girls Night Out..that sort of thing. 
Exercise?!  That seems impossible. But hello anniversary beach trip in 2.5 months.
I struggle to find some alone time with my husband.

When I do have a few minutes all I can think about is taking a nap or going to sleep.  I am fighting the nap urge as I type this.

It sucks.

I struggle to find that work, family, home and well just life balance.  I keep thinking there has to be an easy way to do this. I mean I do only "work" part-time.  Yep, only 2 days a week. But imagine working 2 days then having a 5 day weekend. Every week.  On paper it looks good, hell it sounds awesome, right?  Not really.  At the end of day 5 you have that "Oh shit moment" where you realize you have to work for a paycheck the next 2 days.  It's hard to turn your brain into work mode when it has been out of work mode for so long.  And as you are working, you spend your time thinking about all of the things you could be doing around the house and for your children.

The Hubs suggested we keep a detailed calendar blocking out hours of our lives for certain things.  I can't do it. Don't get me wrong, I am a planner.  Slightly OCD about having a schedule for the children and knowing what lies ahead for the next week or two.  But breaking it down by hour..every.single.day..is a stretch. Things happen to throw a schedule off. And then I will stress about it. And honestly...who needs more unnecessary stress in their life?  Not me.

So in the mean time I will continue to struggle to find balance. I will live in a messy house.  My blog will only see updates a couple times a month.  My Etsy store will remain barely stocked.  I will not be in shape for my anniversary trip.  I will continue to be tired. Laundry will continue to pile up.   But my children will be loved. And in the end...that is all that is important.

Saturday, January 12, 2013

H.B.Nanna is 4

 
Where does the time go?!
It seems like just yesterday I was having a baby girl at
35 weeks and 1 day.
 
 
It seems like just yesterday I was bringing home my beautiful preemie girl from the ICN after an 11 day stay.
It seems like just yesterday I was rocking her to sleep and singing You Are My Sunshine.
 
 
Now my baby girl is a thriving 4 year old.
She loves to "read" books.
 
 
She loves to play dress-up.
She loves her Baby Brother.
 
 
She is an awesome speller.
And she likes to do things her way.
 
 
Like any child this age, she has her good days and bad. 
Sometimes there are more good then bad..
I just try to remember she is only 4 and learning to express herself.
 
 
She is not a fan of time out..but who is?!
Often times her listening ears are broken but it doesn't seem to bother her ;)
 
 
This girl is awesome. I am so happy to be her Mamma.
 
 

I am truly blessed to have a daughter as sweet, caring, outgoing, funny and loving as my H.B.Nanna.
 

Tuesday, January 8, 2013

Damn You Pinterest!

Don't get me wrong...I LOVE Pinterest.

Sometimes too much.

Expect for when my daughter is looking over my shoulder and asks me to make this for her rainbow birthday party.

Source: wanelo.com via Jessica on Pinterest


Wish me luck!

Thursday, January 3, 2013

Pinterest Finds

I hardly ever get on Pinterest on the computer anymore.
The darn phone app is too convienient.
I find myself looking and pinning things in the middle of a store.
 
And now that Christmas is over and it is a new year we are on to the next holiday.
Time to start thinking clever valentine's for school.
 
 
Source: redtedart.com via Kelli on Pinterest
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 


Wednesday, January 2, 2013

Corrective Helmet Week 1

So here we are 1 week into helmet He@#!!
 
To say he doesn't like it is putting it mildly.
 If he is awake and wearing it chances are he is crying.
Unless Mommy or Daddy is holding him.
Or unless he is sleeping.
 
 
 
I can't say I blame him. 
The thing looks ridiculously uncomfortable.
 
He has had some irritation on his forehead from wearing it.
We contacted the office that we are working with for it.
Instead of him wearing it 23 hours a day, she told us to do
3 to 4 hours at a time with no sleeping in it.
 
Since he hates it and actually sleeps in it, we are letting him sleep in in
which is at most 7 hours at a time.
Then we do a couple 3 to 4 hour sessions through out the day.
 
It seems to work for us. And him.
 
Stephen and I both agreed that if we knew he was going to be so miserable with it on, we would have saved the ridiculous money it cost us for the helmet and tried something else. Such is life!
 
Even my parents dog doesn't like the helmet!
{the dog was not injured in this photo}
 
Here is a photo of the Boy's head shape just before he got his helmet.
I am looking forward to seeing if there is any progress after another week.
 
 

Tuesday, January 1, 2013

Happy New Year!

Happy 2013!! 
 
Today is a new start.  A new opportunity to do things differently. 
A chance to set goals and create ways to achieve them.
 
But in typical resolution fashion, we promise to do things differently.
And we do.
For a week.
Then we are back to old habits.
 
So what are your resolutions this year?
 
I want to say I am going to blog more.
I want to say I am going to lose the final 10 pounds of baby weight.
I want to say that I am going to not stress over the little things anymore.
I want to say that I am going to slow down and enjoy more of the little moments.
I want to say that I am going to be ok with my house not being sparkly clean when company arrives.
 
But in reality..these things may not actually happen. 
Or at least for more then a week.
 
But I am going to try my best.
I really am.
How many times have you heard this??
 
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Our New Years Eve was very low key.
 
H.B.Nanna banged some pots and pans at 7:45 last night.
Why yes daughter, it was midnight somewhere.
 
 
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